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Saturday, October 1, 2011

"Divorce is too easy these days..."

"Divorce is too easy these days..."  is what someone posted on the Facebook group page "Your know ur from Scranton, Pa".  I wanted to post a reply in that thread, but then I remembered that I have the whole entire blog thing going.

Anyway, had I been so motivated to post in that discussion, I would have told the individual making that statement that:

They obviously have never been through a divorce.

or

If they have been through a divorce, it must have been far different than what most folks experience.

Divorce is NOT easy, not now and I suspect not "back then" either.  In fact, I would go so far as to describe it as being an almost perfect storm of suck...

...it is chock full of the worst possible emotions (anger, sadness, jealousy, regret, and I could go on)
...if you have children, no matter what the age(s) are, it is disruptive to their lives
...lawyers are almost almost always involved (things that involve lawyers are almost always bad news)
...it costs money no matter how you do it (sometimes a lot of money)
...it puts your life in limbo for an extended period of time
...it consumes enormous amounts of your time
...it exposes you personally and financially

The above is just for run of the mill divorces.  Lest we forget that also sometimes divorces result from...

...substance abuse
...physical abuse
...emotional abuse

...and other assorted really horrible things.

Now if you are reading this and you are in a happy marriage then you certainly have my congratulations.  You truly are living the dream.

If you are reading this and you went through an easy, painless divorce, then I'd say you have been one of the fortunate few.

If you are reading this and are going through (or have gone though) a difficult divorce, then you truly have my sympathy.

The past wasn't always better.  The good old days weren't always so good.  And what appears to be "easy" to some can be in fact very difficult for others.

Carpe diem folks.

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