- The [Nothing] reaction, "How is that even possible" & those that assume I am in recovery camp.
- The "What kind of freak are you" and "Come on, have a beer" crowd.
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Sunday, June 25, 2023
The S Word
Saturday, June 17, 2023
Council Skies
The title comes from a song by Noel Gallagher's High Flying Birds, which I really enjoy. Have a listen...
I don't normally listen to much newly released music, but I gave this one a try and am glad for the decision.
I found the song after reading about the Gallagher brothers from the (former) group Oasis, namely Noel, and Liam. For those that may be unfamiliar with the Gallagher brothers, they are mostly famous for:
- The above-referenced English & defunct band Oasis, and...
- Hating each other's guts.
A few articles and an hour or three's worth of video interviews and I now know far more about the Gallagher brothers than what is actually required for any practical reason. There is, of course, a bigger thought and story here, over and above Noel and Liam: Namely family dynamics between siblings.
Thinking back over my life, I realize that I have been pretty lucky in the sibling relations department. Perfect? Hell no. It feels as if I haven't vested nearly enough time in keeping in touch with my sisters, which I own, and I need to do better. As I approach the end of my primary working years, it's pretty clear that other parts of my life up to this point have been pretty much all-consuming, at least as far as my physical, mental, and emotional energy has been concerned. Some of this is unadulterated ambition: I desperately wanted to have a better life than I had growing up. I think that, when it comes to that last point, I've been more or less successful.
When it comes to maintaining relationships with my brothers, I think that I've tried...probably more so since my brother Chris' passing in 2017. As for Chris, I wish I would have spent more time with him. Like me though, he also had a kind of inherent ambition, which made connecting doubly more challenging. Then there were a few squabbles, of which 99.87% always had to do with politics. I still, for example, recall the seeming mix of hurt and disgust in his voice after I repeatedly referred to Rush Limbaugh as "Pumpkin Head". This was because Chris adored Limbaugh and he (Limbaugh) truly had an enormous head. I think though that, for the most part, we both knew that the political arguments were more of a sport of sorts, and neither one of us liked to lose.
I'll also note that, in retrospect, it's clear that my brother Chris was a deeply conflicted man who was fighting an ongoing (and losing) battle against self-medication. I wish I could have helped more, but I also know that I did what I could at the time, including listening. Among the many things I am grateful for is the fact that we were in regular contact before he passed.
Getting back to the Gallagher brothers, it's painful to think that two siblings are so disconnected. I don't pretend to understand all the dynamics between them, but I know that our siblings understand our story better than others do. That's true for the children of my parents as well as rock musicians from Manchester. Denying the benefit of that connection...not having that person in your life who has some sense of your story and struggle...is tragic.
My ongoing hope is to not make that mistake.
Monday, June 12, 2023
So Long, and Thanks for All the Fish
I wanted to come up with an interesting and engaging title for this posting, but I more or less failed. The result is noted above. If you don't get the reference, well then that's okay. It probably means you have something of a life (reference HERE). On to the real business of this posting stuff.
We've now been back from Scotland for going on three weeks, so I'm thinking an update is due.
The traveling back was hell.
Yes, thanks to something of a British Airways meltdown (HERE), our initial flight from Edinburgh to London was canceled. Luckily, we got a very competent agent, who was able to book us on a later flight. That's the good news. The bad news? We had to spend 8 hours at Edinburgh airport. Many of the gate seating areas at the Edinburg airport look like this...
The really bad news? The new flight was leaving at 3pm local time, meaning that we would not get back to the U.S. until 10-10:30pm. Note there is a 6-hour time difference to figure into all of this. True to form, that happened, and the net result was Ms. Rivers and I took turns with the drive from Newark back home. Honestly, we are lucky that there wasn't a lot of traffic. Put another way, had we still been in the U.K., we would have been up for something like 20+ hours by the time we got home.
Oh, and British Airways lost one of our bags, which we got back...a week and a half later. Given the reach of British Airways, there's no way of knowing what happened to our bag during that time. I told my younger stepson to smell the suitcase to see if it had an odor of "curry and despair".
All well and good, and certainly first-world problems, for sure.
It took me days to fall back into a regular sleeping schedule. And I was absolutely buried with stuff at work. Ms. Rivers and I both agree that there won't be any Atlantic crossings for a few years to come. Come to think of it, I'm pretty good not flying for a while, truth be told.
It's important, or at least it seems like it should be important, to separate the travel from the destination. In that case, the destination is wonderful. British Airways is not. Enough said.
So here I am back to more life as usual. A bit wiser and more worldly for the wear. Now I feel somewhat compelled to pay more attention to my flowers, especially my burgeoning honeysuckle forest. Pictures to come at some point.
Saturday, May 27, 2023
Scotland - Day 8: Mar sin leat
The above is my feeble attempt at saying goodbye in Scottish Gaelic. Given that my language skills are somewhat lacking, even in English, the title is about as correct as Google can make it. Anyway, today is our last day in Scotland, and tomorrow, bright and early, we return home.
As for today's activities, well, things were intentionally kept on the light side. The first stop this morning was to the Edinburgh farmer's market, where a few things were purchased. From there, it was off to the National Museum of Scotland, which we barely made a dent in before deciding to call it a day. Our plan from there was to head off to Arthur's Seat and do some hiking, but two things got in the way: 1) It was a bit chillier than expected and 2) We were just tired. To that second point, I'm glad we stayed here as long as we did, but by now, the hiking miles upon miles a day is wearing a bit thin for all of us (myself especially included). If there is ever a return trip, Arthur's Seat (and one or two other places) will be first on the list.
Back to the National Museum of Scotland...this is a must-see. The fact that it's completely free only adds to the coolness of the place. The museum itself has a bit of everything, from fossils to religious artifacts to weapons of a thousand years ago.
The interior of the museum.
A copy of Mary, Queen of Scots's casket.
A precursor to the French guillotine.
Ms. Rivers and I also had a final stroll in the city before things get too dark, and we get too tired. Of course, this somehow ended up involving a cemetery.
View of St. Cuthbert's cemetery and steeple.
On that note, that brings "the big Scotland vacation" to an end. I suspect that we will be back, at some unknown point in the future. As for me, I confess that it will be nice to sleep in my own bed, not walk up quite so many hills, and having the time to plant flowers on Monday. There is a certain serenity in routine, but yet in leaving, I'm hoping that some of those routines are forever changed. We shall see.
I'll end this with my favorite song about Scotland.
Friday, May 26, 2023
Scotland - Days 6 & 7: Winding Down
We're on the back end of our Scotland vacation, so I'm going to combine activities from Thursday (May 25th) and Friday (May 26th). This is mostly because, at least for me, things are dialing down a bit. No big tours, and no tight schedules. I am good with this, by the way. While I have thoroughly enjoyed what we've done so far, I'm starting to feel as if my vacation insights cup is almost full. This is less of a writing thing and more of a mental/physically tired kind of thing.
Homesick? Not really. It's probably more of a function of my incredibly short attention span. I've seen wonderful things here, and I've learned a thing or two. And not just about Scotland. Big things like this...and traveling to a different country is a big thing...create a tremendous opportunity for growth, I think if we're open to it. As I'm looking at one full day left, I'm still trying to sort out some of what I've learned. This is a wonderful thing by the way, namely, the fact that, at age 59, I readily confess to learning new things about myself and the world.
Something I will note is that the night before we flew out here, I had something of an incredibly troubling dream. I wouldn't use the word nightmare, but one of those sleeping cerebral movies that just sticks in your head like old gum on the bottom of a movie theater seat. The kind of thing where the emotion of it all makes you think there must be some deeper meaning to it all, even though there probably isn't. Flying out here that quickly evaporated. Indeed, there was no deeper meaning. It was just a dream. This is, however, one of the examples of how travel can impact us: It takes us outside of our own heads for a period of time. The sheer difference of it all reminds us that there is much more to the world than what we think (or dream) or see in front of us every "normal" day.
In the end, seeing the "bigness" of the world is both humbling and incredibly insightful.
I wish there was some way to expose younger folks of all economic conditions to overseas travel. I think the world would be a far, far better place. As it stands, this kind of travel is an example of a kind of privilege in action, which, growing on the lower socio-economic side of status, I fully appreciate as an adult. I also appreciate the fact that Ms. Rivers is far more keen to undertake these kinds of things than I naturally am. Granted that I do enjoy this kind of travel, but left to my own druthers, I'm not sure I would do it.
As for the last two days' worth of travels, well, as I noted above, it was a bit less scheduled. On Thursday, we did an hour-long tour of some of the vaults that are found under the King's Mile (in Edinburgh). It was interesting, and the guide did a good job of conjuring up some spooky mojo with her stories, in addition to talking about the real hardship of living at a time when 1) There wasn't enough housing for everyone, and 2) Actually being homeless was a criminal offense.
The vaults we visited were off of Cow Gate, which just so happens to have the backside of a cow displayed in one of the nearby buildings.
One of the vaults was used by a local religious group for many, many years. After their leader passed away, the group broke up, up but allowed the owner of the vault they used to be maintained, provided that no one could enter. By the way, the vaults in this area are owned by different folks and are used for everything from nothing to storage to a bar.
You can read more about the Edinburgh vaults HERE.
After the vaults, we had a rather uneventful dinner at what we think was a chain restaurant of sorts. Ms. Rivers tried the beet sauce. I didn't.
Today (Friday) we did some more walking (surprising!) and found the beginning of a canal, complete with canal boats.
We also found a very neglected cemetery in of all places, Coffin Lane. We would have gone down the explore, but the encampment of folks who looked like they may be been using some illegal substances was there already. Discretion was the better part of valor.
Ms. Rivers and I went for a walk further down King's Mile later in the day. A few things caught my eye:
Wednesday, May 24, 2023
Scotland - Day 5: There's Something In The Air
- There is a distinct Edinburgh smell.
- I also got a whiff of it in a smaller town we visited (see below).
- It reminds me of when I used to live in York, PA, and was downwind of a paper plant.
- Said smell goes away when you leave the city; in fact, the countryside here smells wonderful.
Tuesday, May 23, 2023
Scotland - Day 4: King For A Day
Maybe, quite possibly, I might have gotten enough sleep last night. Granted that sleep is sometimes more of a concept for me than an actuality. That's a fancy way of saying sleep and I don't always get along. Anyway, I actually got something along the lines of 8 hours of sleep. That's a good start to the day. This was needed as today we spent a few hours at Edinburgh Castle.
As we were waiting outside St. Giles Cathedral, we heard an actual Scottish street preacher doing this thing catercorner to the church.
I almost feel guilty burning up a posting photo on the guy (due to posting size limits, I can typically fit about 5-6 high resolutions per posting), but it's worth it. There's something unqualifying interesting about a man yelling the name of "Jesus Christ!" in a thick Scottish accent at one of the busiest corners of Edinburgh. He was literally fighting a losing battle against traffic. Some nice soul in a passing taxi was even kind enough to take of one his pamphlets. All in a day's work I suppose.
On to Edinburgh Castle, which is many things, including amazing. A few points of interest.
St. Margaret's Chapel is one of the oldest buildings in the U.K. dating back to around the year 1130. It's also the oldest surviving building at the castle, here basically because King Robert the Bruce was afraid of creating bad mojo with the Pope.
You can get married in the chapel, which is why I couldn't take any interior photos, as that was actually happening during our visit. Congratulations to the groom and bride, whomever they are.
I didn't go into many of the castle buildings, mostly because it was nice outside and many of them don't allow interior photography. I did, however, get to see the changing of the guard. Fun fact: Edinburgh Castle is a real U.K. military base, with a garrison of troops stationed there at all times. One of the places they guard, in addition to the actual castle entrance, is a building dedicated to those from the U.K. military who lost their lives during their service.
- The building came after the graphic was installed.
- No one wanted to actually include in the graphic the description of the "Turd Building".
Monday, May 22, 2023
Scotland - Day 3: Authenticity
I don't try to explain, after the fact, what these bordering-on-ridiculous blog postings mean. There are a couple reasons for that, none of which are entertaining enough (for me...) to write about. This noted, what I do find fascinating is how easy it is to read intent into written words. That's both a curse and a blessing for folks that write things, even hacks such as myself. Anyway, I'm going to make an exception to the blog posting interpretation rule.
For example, in my Day 1 posting, I compared how Edinburgh is, well, gritty, dirty, and kind of smells like the Scranton I knew as a kid. I get that this certainly sounds bad...unless you are me, and you grew up in Scranton in the '70s. Granted that other folks, outside of fans of the U.S. version of The Office, probably have a negative impression of Scranton, but I don't. In fact, that gritty/dirty/smells description is, in a word, authentic. While there are tons of tourists here in Edinburgh, as I noted in the Day 2 posting, this is a lived-in kind of place. The tourists just seem to be here for the ride.
Another way to think about this is to consider Edinburgh as a kind of anti-Disney. This isn't a magic kingdom; this is a place where people work, sieges have been had, and more than a few people hung and/or otherwise dispatched. In the words of our tour guide on Sunday, Edinburgh had for the longest time a reputation for being one of the most disgusting cities in Europe. The magic in this kingdom is that people have called this home and fought for it over centuries.
The above noted, my quota for actually explaining blog postings has been met. Since this is about the first time since 2008 that I've done this sort of thing (explaining...), if I do the math then I won't have to do it again until sometime in 2038.
On to the day's festivities.
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Today we did the quasi-common bus tour of the countryside thing. It was fun, based partially on the fact that my knees appreciated that they weren't responsible for all of the day's locomotion. To be a bit more specific, the big stops today were Loch Lomond and Stirling Castle. See the links for more (likely & possibly) factual information.
As we were headed to Loch Lomond, we stopped to see an attraction known as the Kelpies. For purposes of picture set-up, know that this is a very large metal sculpture.
Sunday, May 21, 2023
Scotland - Day 2: It's Pronounced "Edin-Brah"
A minor mystery has been solved. What mystery, you may ask? Well, is this town named...
...Edin-boro?
...Edin-burg?
...wrong on both counts. According to our tour guide this morning, the very talented Ms. Roisin, it's actually pronounced something like "Edin-brah", where the "brah" part sounds like what a 20-something-year-old dude who vapes a lot calls everyone he knows. See below.
Scotland - Day 1: Far But Familiar
Fun fact: The mountains in Northeastern Pennsylvania belong to the same range that, in Earth's past, also include the Scottish Highlands. You can learn more about the subject HERE. Here's a graphic, just to punctuate the point...
This isn't the first time I've heard about the Central Pangean Mountains; that would be something Ms. Rivers' brother, a geologist, mentioned when we were visiting Scandinavia in 2018.
Based on the title of this posting, and the reference above, it's fair to say that I am visiting Scotland this week. By way of background, this trip is notable for a few reasons, including the fact that it's likely to be one of the last vacations we take with Ms. Rivers' sons (my stepsons). This is because they are getting older, we are getting older, and well, everything seems to getting older. Speaking of getting older, another reason behind the trip is the fact, as we approach an eventual, collective retirement age, it seems prudent for us to take advantage of the fact that we've been prudent with our finances. Put another way, was can afford to travel, so why not? In some respects, this is the first trip of what will probably be a few in the years to come. The downside? More tedious blog postings from me, but so I digress.
So, why Scotland?
Well to the best of my knowledge, I have zero point zero connection to Scotland. This is the honest-to-goodness truth, unlike what I've said about Ireland for decades. Ms. Rivers? Well, she does. The genesis of the trip came after hearing about a similar trip that Ms. Rivers' sisters took years ago. The thought was that we would travel with them, but that part didn't end up working out. What did was our end of it, so here we are, about a year after starting to plan this vacation.
Butterfly knees.
There is a special 1,000-year place in purgatory for people who design modern airplane seating arrangements. Now if you are of average height, these sorts of things work out okay for you. Me? Not so much, so my knees end up being bent at unnatural angles for hours on end, broken up by the occasional trip to the bathroom (which is mostly just an excuse to unfurl my knees...like a butterfly emerging from a chrysalis...every now and then). With 8 hours of travel yesterday, well, my knees were sore by the time I got off the second leg of our flights, here in Edinburgh. Making matters worse was the fact that we then had about 3+ hours (and associated walking) before we could check in at our rented apartment in Edinburgh's old city. By the time I was able to lay down (I had gotten about an hour of sleep the night before) my knees felt like they were got to explode and projectile my patellas across the room. Fortunately, this did not happen.
So here I am now, writing this on a dreary but more or less wonderful morning in the old city of Edinburgh. My knees are about 90% recovered, and I think that today's guided walking tour will actually help things. Or so we shall see.
One observation about Scotland so far: It sort of reminds me of growing up in Scranton. Connection via ancient mount range aside for a moment, this place is gritty, has lots of smells (diesel, food, stuff that was once food but now is rotting...), and is generally not well kept. In other words, Scranton in the 1970's, but sans the three strip clubs that adorn a corner not so far from us. Multiples seem to be a thing here, as in addition to the three strip clubs nearby, there are at least four barbers within a stone's throw from the kitchen window I am sitting next to at this very moment. Scottsmen love well-trimmed hair I guess.
Lastly, I did not bring my usual camera gear on this trip. This is mostly because I didn't want to have to bring another bag with me, and my Google Pixel takes great pictures anyway. In service of my comment about Edinburgh's gritty-ness, I offer the following...
More to come.










































