Prior to a few days ago I had never heard of Kate Spade. Her brother in law? Sure. But the fashion designer? Not in the least.
Now I am admittedly an idiot when it comes to fashion. I think the very concept of fashion...that there are these uber-cool folks who can tell you what you should wear and then you'll be popular...is ridiculous. I think the best clothes are the most comfortable. Enough said.
Kate Spade apparently felt the opposite way about fashion.
That's about the only thing I now know for sure about Kate Spade, well outside of the fact that she apparently committed suicide.
I do know something about suicide; in point of fact, I know too much about suicide. Not from having attempted it myself, but suffice to say that it's something that's touched my life on more than one occasion. I know what the family of Kate Spade must be going through, and I can only hope that they eventually find some peace after this horrible event.
This is the part where I am supposed to say that Kate Spade's suicide will hopefully spark a national discussion about mental health, etc. In today's society though, that discussion, like much of our collective attention span, will likely be short-lived.
The moral of the story here, to the extent there can be one, is that this isn't about national debates and trendy discussions over Starbucks. Rather, it's about the gritty reality that each of us has people in our lives who may be suffering, sometimes in silence. It's about the fact that we all struggle to one extent or another with discussions on the inside, but for some, that inner dialogue takes a decidedly dark turn. This isn't something that happens "over there" or to "him" or to "her". This is something can be happening right now to you or to me or to our brother or sister, wife or parent. Sadly, sometimes we find out about this after the fact.
I don't know the big solution here, and life is only going to get even more complicated; for some, that means the dark inner voice is only going to get louder.
What I do know is the small solution: Keep those you care about close. Let them know you care. Be the voice that maybe interrupts the decidedly dark inner dialogue in someone's head.
Sometimes the best solutions come in the smallest packages.