This was something that Ms. Rivers and I collaborated on recently. You can also link to the original posting HERE.
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Saturday, November 19, 2022
It has not been quick or easy to make our final arrangements, but we are trying to get it done to minimize what you and the girls will need to do. For a couple years, we periodically visited cemeteries (per the original post in 2019, we have specific criteria). I like walking around cemeteries, probably because I grew up immediately next to one. We ended up choosing the West Pittston Cemetery, which works since it has many trees, small animals, a view of the mountains and as a bonus for me is near the Susquehanna River. (Although it was annoying that a lovely tree quite near our plot was cut down shortly after we bought it.)
Then it took a over a year to get a monument, probably because we wanted unique stuff. We started at a Dupont monument business, since the Carroll headstone at the Wyoming Cemetery was purchased there. After picking marble and sending pictures of a mourning dove (happy first sign of spring, for me) and an entwined eternity and heart symbol, there was no further response to our inquiries. The problem may have been that we wanted special, multi-colored marble from India, and during early phase of COVID-19 it wasn't feasible to get it. So we started again with Pesavento Monuments in Scranton, and this time decided to get locally-sourced marble. Eventually after months of follow-up emails/calls, the design was set, order finalized and grave stone was placed in July. Here is the result, which we are pleased with:
Now we go "visit ourselves" every so often during walks in the cemetery. However, we are not done yet - still have to arrange more stuff with Metcalfe-Shaver-Kopcza funeral home.
As more practical information, we each created a Death Box which is supposed to have useful information to help with estate work. So far, mine includes account/website passwords, and a few letters. We did minor embellishing to decorate the boxes - but the letters are not sticking well. Steve's is supposed to say "Steve's last waltz", and mine is supposed to say "See ya on the far side banks of Jordan" (pretty much, that's a song - I suggest listening to the Carter Family version). Here's what they look like, with sleepy Oren & Rambo nearby.
In other news, Theresa Caputo, the Long Island medium continues to post videos on YouTube. I'm still watching those, and also found Allison DuBois (a medium who has worked with law enforcement) who even more compelling. Fascinating stuff! So maybe there is an afterlife!!